7 Responses to “What else could we use besides marriage counseling to help fix our relationship?”

1. gina Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 9:40 am

   Sometimes it takes a professional to validate your remorse.
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2. stupendous Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 10:19 am

   Infidelity is often very very difficult for some to forget. They want to, they really try to, but images keep flashing back through their minds that make them bitter, hurt, and angry all over again.

   When he tels you that you are not doing enough, then pin him down on that point and discover what it is, in his eyes, that you need to do more of.

   Time is the real healer, time and forgiveness. Forgetting is often never fully reached, but as long as there is love there is hope.
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3. HangingChad Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 11:00 am

   3some
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4. Jodi C Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 11:35 am

   Marriage counselling is not enough on it’s own. This is a valuable tool but you need far more to rebuild on this relationship than just a third party helping you sort it.

   You need to rebuild the most important part of your relationship and that is the trust factor. He needs to be able to trust you again and get back to the loving you stage you guys were at before this all began. Something must have been really wrong in the relationship that led you to cheating on him. Maybe examining that aspect of your past will help you resolve the future. If we know why we made certain decisions and acted in certain ways we may be able to discover the key to resolution that has been missing.

   Your cheating would be going around and around in his head. Over and over again. He would not be able to stop this from happening. Everytime you are late, everytime something doesn’t add up for him as being true….you are going to be suspected. This is very hard to deal with as you will feel like you are forever on trail and forever trying to make ammends for your transgressions.

   Statistically speaking, when a partner cheats……the success of the relationship, the future you may have is in seriouis doubt. It takes a lot of work, understanding and lots of time. If things do work out then there will always be a seed of doubt that will be in the mind of the person who was cheated on.

   I don’t know that you will ever get past this or the feelings you have right now.

   You would be feeling like you have to prove yourself time and time again and account for all your time ……who you have been talking to, your friends, the places you go…etc…… this is a very harsh road you are travelling down.

   There are no easy answers or majic wands for this type of relationship crisis. Time is a healer. Pain can last a lifetime. Suspicion and guilt without forgivness on your partners part will make your road an impossible one.

   The real question is……can you rebuild the trust. Can you show him how much you love him in lots of big and little ways each and every day. Show that you are a woman of your word, you have nothing to hide, you are open about everything. This will go a long way to rebuilding trust and hopefully it works if he can forgive your cheating.

   It takes a very strong partner to do this and a very big hearted forgiving person as well.

   I wish you all the best with this and hope that it all works out for you.
   Try to smile, try to keep your head up and try to keep finding ways to get past this big turning point in your life.
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5. M S Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 11:54 am

   You need a mediator of some sort, and no friend or relative is really going to be neutral.
   Find someone who is trained to help you, not a bunch of amateurs. So yes, try marriage counseling. If you belong to a church, the minister can help.
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6. Jamie Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 12:25 pm

   no…talk to each other and seek GOD
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7. lovehealer Says:
   May 14th, 2010 at 12:38 pm

   Speaking as a couples therapist, there are other alternatives to marriage counseling and expensive therapy. In my clinical experience, this is the best alternative to marriage counseling that specifically helps couples get over the aftermath of extramarital affairs:

   http://www.squidoo.com/us-factor-program
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