Feb 07

Divorce - Is it the Right Answer?

It is a sad fact that of all Americans who have been married, one out of three has also experienced at least one divorce. All couple have problems from time to time and more than once; which can be seen by the high rate of divorce in America. Many marital problems can be solved with open communication and a solid commitment to one another. Couples who are serious about saving the relationship may find professional counseling to be useful in helping them to reconnect emotionally again.

Some problems escalate into insurmountable barriers to a successful marriage, unfortunately. Generally these seemingly unsolvable issues stem from one or both partners refusing to address their problems while they are still manageable. Emotional abandonment by a spouse may be the result of injured feelings that have not been expressed properly, and the ensuing resentment that builds from a lack of validation by the one who did the hurting. As one of the couple get more entangled in such thoughts, soon the couple will end up seeking divorce.

The downhill slide that ends in separation usually begins with communication problems. One of the hazards of keeping information from one another is that eventually you stop talking altogether. The most important aspect of any marriage is trust, once communication has stopped trust is difficult to achieve.

Shortly following a breakdown in communication, a partner may begin to employ personal defense mechanisms that will continue to weaken the marital bond. If you are becoming overly defensive or trying to dismiss the feelings of someone’s spouse then it definitely gives rise to a conflicting situation. The only thing that one achieves from avoiding conflict and engaging in negative defense mechanisms is a poisoned marriage.

The spouse can try to handle the marital problems in such a way that a common solution is achieved and the problems stop to exist anymore. Eventually the spouse making an effort to correct issues in the marriage will tire of being ignored and may even begin to distance his or herself from the other partner. At this point, it is highly likely that one or both spouses may give up entirely and lose any interest in saving the marriage.

Is there a “point of no return” when a marriage is doomed? Certainly there is. However, that point is different for each couple. Willingness is the key,if you want to save your marriage. Once one or both members of a couple have stopped seeing the other as a partner, it becomes a hopeless situation. Repairing a marraige takes serious committment and a willingness to be open and honest while being forgiving and long suffering. It is a long and bumpy road, but then so is the road to divorce.

If you’re interested in more information, you can find out about my experience as an top Austin family law lawyer. You can also watch the Austin Divorce Guide Audio CD at www.TruslerLegal.com. If you haven’t found what you’re looking for, you can read our FAQ’s about divorce in Austin Texas.

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