Does Debi Pearl’s book, Created To Be His Help Meet Contain Sound Advice?
Save Your Marriage No Comments »“Slave Labor” was the title of an article that has circulated on the Internet for several years. The list was purported to be an extract from a high school Home Economics textbook from 1954. The excerpt trained girls to be housewives whose duty was to get the children, home, and dinner ready for the arrival of her husband. It ends with, “Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax”. In other words, treat him as you would a king arriving at the palace.
Women who agree that this sounds like slave labor would NOT appreciate the instruction Debi Pearl presents in her book, Created to Be His Help Meet. In fact, Debi herself was tempted to leave out some of the not-so-politically-correct material for fear it would diminish sales. However, her husband Michael advised her, “If God thought it was important enough to inspire it as part of His Word to us, then you should include it”.
Herein is the first and great quality of this book. It is based on Scripture without fear of man, or other women, or of being called ‘old fashioned’. Debi did a thorough study of the role of women in the Bible to prepare for this book. It is based on the principle of design, that God made women, especially married women, with a special, vital role in the world. That role is to be a helpmeet to her husband. Attempting to take on the man’s role will result in damage to her marriage, her children, and herself.
Debi states, “It took four years, thousands of hours, many tears, revisions and distractions, but I finally finished my book. I had no idea God had so much to say to us ladies until I began going through God’s Word verse by verse, writing the different sections of Created to Be His Help Meet”.
The book could be summarized in the phrase, “Quit trying to make your husband into the man you think he should be and, instead, allow God to make you into the woman He designed you to be”. Often when the husband sees these remarkable, biblical changes in his wife, he will change also. If you do indeed treat him like a king, he may treat you like the queen. However, this is not the goal of your responses.
Most women whose marriage is far from what she dreamed it would be feel they are the exception to the principles presented here. Debi does not skirt difficult situations but includes questions and answers from the Bible. She also deals with the difficult subject of sex in a clear but discrete way.
The fact that, at this writing, the book is in its 8th printing in four years is a strong endorsement. Some pastors even banned the book from their church, but, on the other hand, the many letters from women (and men) who are grateful for what God did in their marriage as a result of the book testify to its effectiveness in teaching God’s ways for women, as His unique creations.
Debi Pearl is the author of multiple best sellers including Created to Be His Help Meet and Listen To My Dream. You can find out more on her website.























