Comments for Save Your Marriage http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com Marriage And Relationship Advice, Counselling Fri, 29 Jul 2011 21:12:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Simpleton44 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-81 Simpleton44 Fri, 29 Jul 2011 21:12:29 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-81 It depends on why they cheated. 99% of the time, the person cheated on had abandoned the relationship in some way. Either sexually or emotionally. This leaves the other person with huge unmet needs and is wide open for an affair. <br /> <br /> The ONLY reason I would leave because of an affair is if my wife NEEDED the validation because of low self esteem. But then again.. I would not be leaving due to the affair, but rather the low self esteem. <br /> <br /> My wife cheated, then I cheated... then we became swingers. The one thing I learned is that sex is just sex. I would be much more concerned if my spouse fell in love and no sex was involved rather than a sexual tryst. It depends on why they cheated. 99% of the time, the person cheated on had abandoned the relationship in some way. Either sexually or emotionally. This leaves the other person with huge unmet needs and is wide open for an affair.

The ONLY reason I would leave because of an affair is if my wife NEEDED the validation because of low self esteem. But then again.. I would not be leaving due to the affair, but rather the low self esteem.

My wife cheated, then I cheated… then we became swingers. The one thing I learned is that sex is just sex. I would be much more concerned if my spouse fell in love and no sex was involved rather than a sexual tryst.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-80 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:40:58 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-80 I would not try at all. An affair means it's over. I would expect he would feel the same way. I would not try at all. An affair means it’s over. I would expect he would feel the same way.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-79 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:28:11 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-79 If you mean she made a one-time mistake, then I would do my best to fix things unless I thought it would happen again. If it really was a full-blown affair, then I think it would be a lot tougher to overcome but I would try. If you mean she made a one-time mistake, then I would do my best to fix things unless I thought it would happen again. If it really was a full-blown affair, then I think it would be a lot tougher to overcome but I would try.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-78 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:20:47 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-78 It's unlikely either of us would.<br /> <br /> An affair implies an ongoing relationship and so rules out a lapse of judgment or some other mitigating factor and so would make it pretty hard to forgive. It’s unlikely either of us would.

An affair implies an ongoing relationship and so rules out a lapse of judgment or some other mitigating factor and so would make it pretty hard to forgive.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-77 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:20:02 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-77 Once the trust is gone their is not much to save. Once the trust is gone their is not much to save.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-76 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:19:38 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-76 I wouldn't try to save it. Trust and loyalty are big factors for me in a relationship so I wouldn't be able to stay with an individual who couldn't respect our vows, and most importantly, couldn't respect ME. I wouldn’t try to save it. Trust and loyalty are big factors for me in a relationship so I wouldn’t be able to stay with an individual who couldn’t respect our vows, and most importantly, couldn’t respect ME.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-75 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:18:28 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-75 we both said a long time ago that it is unforgiveable. Knowing that and either one does it it is over. trust will NEVER be the same. we both said a long time ago that it is unforgiveable. Knowing that and either one does it it is over. trust will NEVER be the same.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-74 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:17:14 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-74 my opinion is I won't bother 2 save a marriage if I found out my partner is having affair.since he cheats,I'll never forgive him cos I give my heart 2 him but since he doesn't treasure its pointless 2 beg him. my opinion is I won’t bother 2 save a marriage if I found out my partner is having affair.since he cheats,I’ll never forgive him cos I give my heart 2 him but since he doesn’t treasure its pointless 2 beg him.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-73 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:16:47 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-73 my 1st husband cheated and i gave him a 2nd chance. big mistake. once that trust is gone, the relationship is pretty much doomed. my 1st husband cheated and i gave him a 2nd chance. big mistake. once that trust is gone, the relationship is pretty much doomed.

]]> Comment on How hard would you try to save your marriage after an affair? by Anonymous http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-72 Anonymous Fri, 29 Jul 2011 20:15:52 +0000 http://www.123saveyourmarriage.com/how-hard-would-you-try-to-save-your-marriage-after-an-affair/#comment-72 I'm not sure about that but I know some women who stuck to their husband after cheating.Sometimes love is much bigger and stronger than the mistake men commit. I’m not sure about that but I know some women who stuck to their husband after cheating.Sometimes love is much bigger and stronger than the mistake men commit.

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